So I have a ... friend who is a very attractive, bright (linguistics and piano performance), Sri Lankan. Like most of my Subcontinental friends, homosexuality just doesn't make much sense. I'll leave it at that.
Now, she is trying very hard to be both "tolerant" and affirm her own sense that there is something wrong with homosexuality. She has decided that no, homosexuals are not going to hell. And no, they are not like drunkards. She has also not said that homosexuality is a "sin."
Instead, she said, "gay people are like the obese. There is nothing wrong with it. But there is no reason to affirm it."
I was, of course, speechless. I thought that maybe the church would find a new cause: refraining from consecrating the corpulent. For clearly, being obese is an indication of gluttony, a lack of self-control. Self=control is clearly one of the episcopal virtues.
So I guess I should tell you that I've begun a body building routine. Please humor the stereotype, but I admit, every gay man I know has a great body. I will do this in solidarity with them.
I take these as small victories: at least she isn't comparing them to destroyers of western civilization or murderers. I'm not one for PC puritanism - I'm looking for small steps at improvement. If you were once a racist and have not learned to undo all your sterotypes, well, I'm with you. Just try to do good by people and be humble about your worldview.
My Lutheran colleague is very conservative, but we've become friends. We disagree about many things (he calls my hermenutic about property, and sex foreign to scripture), but we are fighting remarkably similar battles in our parishes - especially the challenges of materialism and affluence. I think we recognize that our battles are a bit more concrete than the theologies we discuss, so honest fellowship is what keeps us talking.
I'm not much of a PC person - and I work hard to understand other people's perspectives. But what is most important to me is not ideas, but lives. And that includes both my conservative colleague, and the gay couple in my parish. Its more important for me to encourage people in their call than to worry about their final state with God.